Review: The Coaching Habit by Michal Bungay Stanier


The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead ForeverThe Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

This is a thin, very broken up book. It reads a little like a coaching seminar. So if you're looking for a long book with lots of careful argumentation and footnotes, this isn't for you.

However, if you're looking for a quick and easy read with some solid takeaways, then Stanier has written a helpful little manual for you. I personally struggle in conversation, due largely to what he calls the Advice Monster. I want to jump in and speak, rather than asking follow up questions and drilling down where the other person is coming from, in pursuit of helping them come to their own conclusions. He offers helpful tools to combat that tendency.

Also, as a tool tip, all 7 questions are listed on page 200. Might want to dog-ear that page for future reference.

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